“With age comes wisdom, with doubt comes fear, and to live happily, real comes love from within”.—-Unknown
“A true friend; is there when you’re at worst, stands with you in your accomplishments, a true friend will never lie, cheat, or steal from you, and when your true friend comes knocking on your door with a problem, you open the door, let them in, and say I’ll get the shovel.” —Unknown
I am sure whoever is reading this is has many friends, or maybe just a few close friends. I myself, have many “acquaintance’s”, which, I on a normal day would call them my friends. In all reality, I have maybe three really great friend’s. Best friends. The older I get, the more I learn ,and the more experience I have in life, the more I realize who my “real friend’s” are and who my “acquaintance’s” are. I will be thirty-one on the twenty-sixth this month and, it has taken me this long, (and still learning every day), to figure this out. A lot of friends my life have come and gone, moved and passed away, have done bad thing’s are in jail, traveling the country, married with families and moved on with their lives etc…. I have had a lot of arguments, aggressiveness towards me, some so called “friends” have and always will talk behind my back, and this will never end. I have met many people , and made new friends, whom at the time it had felt like we “clicked”, while in reality these people were just looking for a reason to use and abuse me, or were not who they said they were, and a lot of them, (sad to say), have turned out to be completely crazy and that’s when it’s time to run away fast!
THIRD GRADE
“Hey, do you want to play at recess today with me?” MY BFF
“Yes, will you be my friend?” ME
“Sure, you don’t have to ask me if you want to be friends. I am already your friend”. MY BFF
THIS IS THE FIRST THE CONVERISATON MY BEST FRIEND AND I HAD ON THE FRIST DAY OF THIRD GRADE. I HAD A STRANG OBSESSION, IN WHICH I HAD TO ASK ANYONE THAT I ATTENTED TO BE FRIENDS WITH. WEIRD, I KNOW! THEN I ALSO WOULD TELL MY NEW FRIEND ANYTHING I EVER HAD DONE WRONG. HOWEVER, THIS DID HELP ME TO OBTAIN THE BEST FRIENDS I EVER HAD. I GREW UP IN MASSACHUSETTES BEFORE I MOVED TO NEW HAMPSHIRE, AND MY BEST FRIEND AND I ARE STILL BEST FRIENDS TO THIS VERY DAY AND WE NEVER LOST TOUCH. WE DO NOT GET THE CHANCE TO SEE EACH OTHER AS OFTEN AS I WOULD LIKE BUT, EVERY TIME WE ARE TOGETHER IT’S LIKE NOTHING CHANGED, AND I HAVE THAT GUT FEELING LIKE I DID WHEN WE FIRST MET EVERY TIME I HER!
At this moment I am honored to say I have the few best friend’s a young woman could ever ask for. A few of my best friends or close friends are new, and a few of my good friends I have known forever it seems. At my age it is harder to make new friends because, we older and most people have their “cliques” now. Thankfully, I am not and never was the person who was in a “clique”. I am and was as a child friends with everyone, and I liked everyone, regardless of what they had to offer me, or if they were “cool”, or had money etc…. None of that every mattered to me and it never will. We are all unique individuals, and that is true beauty to me, to be different, to be your-self is what I look for in a friend. I also look for kindness, generosity, loving, caring, non-judgmental, and for real people who have lived and are living real lives, people who will not say bad thing’s about me as soon as I turn around, instead they tell me what problem they may have so we can talk it out like adults. I want friend’s who say amazing thing’s about me when I turn around (and to me is nice too). I like to call this “constructive criticism”, when your friend secretly or silently tells you that she doesn’t like your shirt, or she heard that I called her a bitch, or doesn’t like my blog or poem. This is telling me, in my eyes, that this person is a great friend because, they are being honest and confronting me in an honorable way.
“Laughing, being active, loving, kissing, and having goof, honest, real and true to the heart friends is something we all need in our lives, whether it’s one good friend or three or four, this is where the true wealth lies”. —–Unknown
I have heard people say that having your spouse as your or a best friend is either stupid, not normal, and things like “that person needs to get a life”, the reality of it is to just be quiet and let them be happy. I like to say I do no lie but, that would be a lie, I fib sometimes because it is deemed necessary, sometimes. I do have two wonderful kid’s but, as any parent, child care worker, aunt, uncle, cousin, sibling, anyone who knows any children, that sometimes we do have to lie for their own good. As for adults who lie to other adults, I guess it depends on the situation. I personally try not to lie and rarely do because I have just always been that way an I am a role model for my children. There is no point in lying, all you end up doing is digging yourself into a deeper whole in which you may never get out of, and before you know it your living a lie, your life is based on a lie. I could not live like this, but that’s just me.
To end my blog for today I want to leave you all with this; be kind to everyone not just your friend’s, love everyone, be honest, be real, don’t talk about other’s behind their backs, always love yourself, don’t forget others have feelings too that you may not see but, they are easily hurt. NO MATTER WHAT ALWAYS, ALWAYS BE YOUR BEST SELF AND LOVE WITH ALL YOU HAVE, AND A SMILE GOES A LONG WAY! THINK ABOUT WHAT AND WHO REALLY MATTERS AT THE END OF THE DAY, AND WHO HAS BEEN, WILL, AND IS CURRENTLY ALWAYS BY YOUR SIDE THESE PEOPLE ARE YOUR REAL FRIENDS. THE ONE’S THAT NEVER LEFT YOU ALONE, THE ONE’S WHO NEVER CARED THAT YOU HIT A ROUGH PATCH AND NEEDED HELP, THE ONE’S WHO ALWAYS HAD AND STILL DO, YOUR BACK. THESE ARE THE ONE’S WHO ARE WORTH IT! ♥
♥ ONE LOVE ♥
JENNY KISSES
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